I had re-written this blog way too many times.
I wanted to share personal things related to me but every time i read what i had written i feel that it's just meaning less and no one would ever care.
In-short i am thinking about committing suicide because i can't handle my family stress and life as well any more.
i don't care about anything in my life. i don't care about money, friends, family or being a good coder or anything.
and why i didn't google that but instead blogged it here, since i am dedicating much of my time on this website just felt that i would rather do it here since i have no-where else to share things with the others.
if anyone had the same problem as me kindly advice me.
if you didn't ever face such stress that would make you think about suiciding without hesitation please take care of what you are going to say.
make a friendship with the self-help books.
evidence that no one should seek advice from random people over internet
Suicide gives you nothing. Just leave that.. Can i know Your age?
think that you are doing a very hard job... that every single day yu are just toiling to handle it. even thinking of getting rid of this job is joyful! so now I guess you would understand how much your comment helped him/her.
I guess you would understand how much your reply helped him/her.I couldn't figure out your nationality but by any chance if you are Indian,
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Brother, please see to the fact that you are not born to die, you are born to live, you are born to win, you are born to do your favorite things.
Many people get frustrated by their lives because it's too tough. It may be tougher for you but it's my sincere advice to you that you stay strong brother.
Remember these quotes https://www.success.com/17-motivational-quotes-to-inspire-you-to-be-successful/
Don't take that as some other nonsense blog, these quotes are the people who themselves have faced a lot of difficulties.
Be grateful for what you have and try to gain things that you want but if you don't succeed then don't dwell on failure thoughts, it makes you weak, therefore stand up and try again, stand up and try again like an Ant.
Watch the motivational speech by Arnold Schwarzenneger.
Life is not easy and that makes it more joyful. I remember one very famous quote "Think that your life was perfect from every angle, then what would it have looked".
Failures and Success go hand in hand, stress and joy go hand in hand, impurity and purity goes together.
Last thing, stay with your family ... go have a walk in nature, drink plety of water, eat your favorite dish, watch good comedy movies and motivational speeches, get back on track and live to the best.
If ever you feel low just remind yourself one thing that you are born to live, you are born to win...
Regards,
Teja348
Did I said something wrong in above comment. then please do correct me. In above comment I would also like to add that if it doesn't work foryou then you must seek help from medical professional...
yes, you and I forgot to add some dumb meme.
common... is it really going to help him? you know you are just saying something that may be logically correct, but not helpful and suitable for here!
plz... just try to underastand their feelings a bit!
your life is not yours to take, many under privileged people lived an unfulfilling life and died. Why do you want to do it, are you doing it because you are not motivated enough. Find some motivation then , care about your family, it will give enough reasons to live.
Remember, it is all a mental state, which can be changed if you look into it, if you do something about it, just change your current mental state.
Motivation is an emotion, make it stronger, listen to motivational songs, fix targets , improve yourself day by day, dont compare urself to others, that's an INSULT to your uniqueness, watch ANIMEs and set a goal and work towards it.
EDIT — I dont care , I am just a worthless non — grandmaster , my opinions are shit and I dont know which meme is best in this case.
A blog about suicide is getting so many upvotes but a genuine help tip is treated worthless, I guess people on CF care only about memes.
EDIT — Edited my comment.
"Remember, it is all a mental state, which can be changed if you look into it, if you do something about it, just change your current mental state."
You make it sound as if changing one's mental state is as easy as looking into it, as though it can be done with sheer willpower, and are implying that OP current state is his own fault.
Yeah, I am just trying to give him a positive outlook. Later I have also added how we can try to change the mental state.
I don't know his conditions but unlike others who are giving tips like just be happy or seek professional help (both being obvious), I am trying to state the minimal correct fact/solution in a different perspective.
change your mental state
Also it would be better instead of finding mistakes in my comment and showing that you genuinely not care, try to actually post something helpful for once.
NOT ONLY TO YOU, BUT TO EVERYONE READING THIS BLOG I WANT TO REMIND THAT THIS IS NOT SOME UPVOTE/DOWNVOTE GAME BUT A SERIOUS CONDITION AND THE LEAST WE CAN DO IS TELL HIM ABOUT DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVES (since that's what he asked for) SO THAT HE CAN GET SOME REASONS TO ACTUALLY CHANGE HIS MINDSET FOR THE BETTER.
THANKS
even if you are saying right, the way that you are saying is making it seem just like hundreds of comments which have actually nothing to say but just to mention how much it is important to be alive or that we are here to live ... plzzzz stop it! just think a bit... he/she considered to commit suicide! how can it be useful to tell him/her it is not only their life! think about it a bit more logically plz
Hi,
I get your point, but I want my words to reach out to him and give him a different perspective that one shouldn't take our life that lightly , each of us is unique and its normal to feel depressed, you just need to change your mindset and things might get back on track.
Also I am not against any other comment as I mentioned, infact I encourage people to give him tips , so that he can look at life from others perspective. Of course every comment helping him is correct, but comments stating that "other comments are wrong, my comment is correct" — is wrong in this case (as done by some people below).
Moreover, he is asking for help, I am trying to help, where's the problem, I will not reply further because I have nothing to prove.
Thanks
this way I would like to appreciate your great feelings about other humans :) I was just so sad coz I though you are one of those "dont care about anything and really cant understand the problem" people...
yeah , i understood your concern :)
Go out in the nature. Excercise/Meditate. Watch Movies. Play Games. Make a schedule. Get busy with life. Things will get better after the epidemic.
I find this helpful: https://youtu.be/A4pR--qJTdU
You forgot to add hunting milfs
That's reserved only for me ;)
you are better then this Morty !!
Why your submission history is empty ?. Why you have not played any contest ? And your are saying that you have dedicated a lot of time on this website but you have only registered 7 weeks before. It clearly means this is not your genuine account and you created for posting this. And please stop doing this things, codeforces blogs are meant for discussing problems and ideas, don't put such things.
Hey man, I hope you do make the choice to continue to live. Life is seriously too short not to live. My best advice for you is try to distract yourself from these thoughts. As time goes on, you may be better at distracting yourself from these thoughts and hopefully, find a goal that you plan to achieve. When you find a goal, distracting yourself from thoughts like this will be even easier. It may take a while, but you will get there.
Brother please, instead of posting or taking advice from here, contact a psychiatrist! He may really help you on the other hand random advice from internet may be really harmful :(
This is an educational site. You should consult a psychiatrist. Talk to friends, family. We cannot help in any way.
I don't know you and the problems you are facing in your life...but I know this for sure, that giving your life is not the solution...the problems will just get worse for your family when you won't be around... think about your family and friends...I am not very good at giving advice...but you should definitely talk to someone close to you or someone you feel comfortable with...asking for advice on internet won't help you much...
As someone who goes through kinda similar phases, I wont try to convince you to live, since you are already over that discussion. I can relate to that feeling when it seems like nothing matters and there is no point in life. But there is a thought I can share with you that keeps me going in such times,
You will most definitely die at some point. Whether there will be an afterlife or you will just cease to exist doesnt matter. You will get that relief and experience of death at some point no matter what. So why not try to live more of life? Its almost like a cf question, there is no reason to die earlier. If you ever feel your suffering is unbearable, you always have the option to die. But not vice-versa. And trust me, you will thank yourself for waiting a bit longer because life has a way of equalising things. You will almost surely go on to live a unique life with unique experiences no matter what you decide to do. Just hang in there for a while.
And some additional tips that help me: Hormones are a reality for us. Most of what you feel is due to lack of good hormones — dopamine, serotonin etc. All you have to do is something that gives an initial spurt and you will suddenly start to see the meaning in things. Its amazing how things can change in a day. So, just try to break the negative feedback loop you are in. Go for a morning run, experience nature, your body releases serotonin from that. Take care of yourself, basic hygiene etc. Try to pursue a new hobby, I started meditating and its awesome especially for people like us that face internal problems. And if you still feel that things aren't getting better, then please give yourself a chance and get medical help. There are pills to fix hormonal balances that will make you feel better. Just try these things at least before doing anything. And remember, you can die only once, so think really hard before doing anything.
Try to consult with a mental health professional. This is a mental health problem that you are going through. Your body is not releasing the hormones that make you feel good and give meaning to life. This is treatable. Just make that initial effort to reach out to someone you trust. It will be the best decision you ever took, trust me.
The amount of self-proclaimed psychologists and psychiatrists writing "Just be happy" in the comments is sickening.
If it really is that severe, seek professional help. We're a bunch of strangers on the Internet, we can only do very little.
majk I didn't act as a medical professional because I am not one.
I just said one line to him that you are born to live, you are born to win. To give him some hope because where there is hope there is always a way to get ahead.
Imagine someone says you they have cancer and you say "you are born to live and born to win". Maybe then you'll realise how idiotic is what you said.
Isn't it idiotic to say that giving motivation and hope to live is worthless.
And if you are talking about cancer so you should remember that medical treatment needs hope of the person from inside. The motivation to fight. But you won't understand.
Ok, if you genuinely believe "You're born to live, not to die" can give motivation to someone with suicidal thoughts, then more accurate comparison would be sth like "someone tells you they have cancer and you say: just ingest lots of vitamine C and you'll recover". People with suicidal thoughts when they hear sth like this are much more likely to think: "Oh, if it's really so simple for others to just stay positive, but it doesn't work with me then there's something wrong with me, it's my fault that I feel what I feel" which can only make their mental condition worse.
https://psychcentral.com/lib/worst-things-to-say-to-someone-whos-depressed/ https://www.psycom.net/depression.central.6.things.never.say.html
Okay, I agree to your point but as a noob, I tried the best to help.
Hang in there. Things will get better
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Bro believe in God. The Tide will definitely turn. Remember a Diamond gets made by passing through excessive heat and pressure. Your problems will make you a diamond and life would give you the best.please watch movie Peaceful warrior and please chant WAHEGURU 100 times and whenever you are in trouble.
I can relate you. I am in that same situation . But I have managed me somewhat . At least I have realized that in this world everyone faces problems. It is just me who is suggesting me to suicide . Wherever you will say that you are feeling like giving up, believe me only a few will care and say that "we are with you , you can stand back,we will help." You know what , most people will say , "you have to find your solution,you are alone, you have to make it working"
But there are some break points of a person . A depressed soul needs support , a direction . Everyone else puts more pressure just and judge .
I would like to really help you to feel better. We are same!
If competitive programming's not enough being a cure, than not much of things can.
Its not worth it...why ? Everyone faces there low point ...writing blog wouldn't be much helpful ... just try to dream ...u know ..may be after some months or years u will end up with ur "family stress and life problems" and if u keep trying u may even get what u want and at that moment u will see how foolish it would have been of u committing suicide. And the thing is u have just lost the hope of even wanting something from ur life. Saying "i don't care about anything in my life. " is the easiest thing to say and that's why u are saying so. Just keep thinking of all u want to change in ur life and how fun that moment will be when u are done handling all ur issues.
Kinda same feeling, I don't care of anything either, but suicide is not that easy.
text me i ll give u my number we can chat if u get someone to say things out loud to it helps rather than thinking over and over in your mind
check this out https://codeforces.com/blog/entry/81522
Well if none of the other comments talks you out of your situation,lemme try...After you die you will be reborn again just to learn and do all the things you already know now starting from scratch, seriously do you want that or just try to get better now at solving problems on CF and life in general?
Why is there even a pressure over not committing suicide. How more toxic could it get?
is it toxic to live, please tell
Living is not usually toxic, but it can get toxic. Some hypothetical situations:
Someone is suffering too much pain for long time from some terminal disease and all doctors gave up on his recovery. Yes, nothing is 100% sure, but is that tiny probability worth it to tolerate so much pain?
Someone is on the roof of a tall building and that roof is on fire and the fire is proceeding towards him — he has only 2 options: die by burning (everyone has to die today or tomorrow, probably by suffering more pain than self-chosen easier death of suicide) or die by committing suicide by jumping from the building. Which one is better do you think?
If connection between your brain and hand is cut off, you won't feel any pain (AFAIK) even if your hand is cut off. What if your brain continuously releases feeling of pain without any cause? How long will you be able to tolerate? Wouldn't it get 'toxic' to live?
You are not defeated completely until you kill yourself..I dont know what you are going through but whatever it is its from the almighty and he is testing you..Keep patience bro..Good day will come..There is always some reason to live for..I know it will appear in your life one day
Bro don't over look other options for this shitty idea to commit suicide, I am sure there is way out.
Hello, this problem is actually well-known in China, I'll write a detailed blog about it soon.
This problem is well known in a place called Kota(India) as well. Institute called Allen well known
sr but it looks like a cursed image
so if you just cant handle your life you can leave it easily... you may feel that it would make you feel better... but the way that youre gonna leave it is important... since committing suicide will have really bad effect on your family and anyone who cares about your life, you can just leave this life ... go as far as you can .. go where ever you think you can start a new life ... find new friends and new job ... this would again bother your relatives but at least would help you to feel alright again ...
note that Im not saying this very bothering things like: "you musnt do this..." or "why should some one kill himself?"... no! I think you "should" leave it but not by committing suicide.. or maybe we can just change the meaning of "suicide" ... lets define it as "leaving the way your living!"
hope you read it ... since Ive written a lot
and just for your knowledge: youre life is important ... at least for me .. coz I clearly know how do you feel and Ive already passed this all... and now youre just like my very nice friend...
this is all I can do now ... if you wanted to talk to someone Ill be glad to be that one :)
Whenever I feel down, I usually listen to Avicii music.
why the downvote tho ?
the account last visit was 24 hours ago "(. RIP
No need to comment , this guy died already ....May his soul rest in peace ...............
How do you know?
just think if he is still alive ... do you know how much your comment would make his feeling worse???
and of course he is still alive!
Unfortunately many of us feel that way sometimes and it's okay to try talking about it (even with people you don't know).
But the truth is that you feel that way because your brain is not doing its job and is not producing the correct substances to make you want to live... And it is not right that you decide to die just because an organ of your body is a little damaged.
Please see a doctor. Give a professional a chance to try to help you before you make a decision that you can't back down.
I promise you that seeing a doctor and taking your medications regularly can make a big difference in how you see life.
Hi Tobii...
I saw your post about suicide.
I am very sorry about what you're going through. I wish I could say more but there's one thing my mentor once said about suicide that stuck with me:
You can always postpone it to tomorrow....
I do hope you pull through and find life worth living.
By the way, If you're Nigerian, please hmu. I may have something to make you feel better.
My two cents- try visiting 7Cups. It is an online free anonymous counseling forum.
Related codeforces blog: give this a try if you're feeling down
I had a friend who got really depressed because he failed two times the entrance exam of a university. After some weeks, he decided to try to get back to his normal life. Still kinda sad, he then got a week out from his part time job and chilled out. It was a very wise choice. He got really better and more confident. He studied a lot and passed the entrance exam. Try to chill out a bit, relax, play sports, discover a new hobby, there is a hole world for you to discover! Your live matters. As all lives matter.
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Please, immediately consult a psychiatrist, without wasting time. This is the best advice at this moment.
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